Are you in a relationship that seems as if it is stalled in the
bedroom? If so, your first thought may be to terminate the
relationship. But, what if your relationship is long-term? What if you
are married? What if you really do love your partner? What steps
should you take then?
When it comes to being unhappy in
the bedroom, it is important to know that ending a marriage or a
relationship should only be used as a last approach. Instead, you will
want to take steps to spice things up. Doing so may improve more than
just your intimacy, but it may do wonders for your relationship in
general.
As nice as it is to hear that you can and should
spice things up and in the bedroom, you may be unsure as to how you
should proceed. If that is the case, please continue reading on.
Below, four easy ways that you can spice things up in the bedroom, are
covered.
1 – Engage in Foreplay
When
you do have sex, what happens? Do you and your partner get right down
to business? If you do, that may be a huge problem. Unfortunately,
many couples do not realize that intimacy is more than just about having
sex. It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship. If you
rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good
chance that it will actually fail.
If you and your partner
don’t already engage in foreplay, start doing so. Also, remember that
foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Call your lover, send a
text message, or a handwritten note expressing your desires to get
intimate with them later on.
2 – Be Spontaneous
When
you want to have sex, what do you do? If you actually take the time to
ask your partner if they want to be intimate with you, you may be doing
more harm than good. Asking first can make being intimate seem more
like a chore than something that should bring you pleasure. The next
time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask first. Just lead
your partner there. In fact, who needs a bedroom?
Know
that being spontaneous is about more than not talking about sex first.
Ways that you can be spontaneous with your partner is to have sex at a
different time, date, or place.
3 – Talk About Your Fantasies
One
of the biggest reasons why couples have problems with sex is because
one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled. If that is the case
with you? Does your partner know what you like or what you want to get
out of being intimate? If not, it is time for you to let them know.
Be
sure to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires.
What would you like to try in the bedroom? In addition to expressing
your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, be sure to let your partner do
the same. Remember that both of you should walk away from an intimate
encounter pleased.
4 – Experiment in the Bedroom
Another
one of the easy ways that you can spice up things in the bedroom is by
experimenting. When doing so, you may be pleased with all of your
options. For starters, you can try a new sex position. This may not
only lead to extra pleasure, but fun and excitement. Sex toys, romantic
or pornographic videos, and role playing are other good ideas for
experimenting in the bedroom.
Remember that experimenting
in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy, but be sure to
use your best judgment. It may be a wise decision to first discuss
making changes with your partner, as you will not want to make him or
her feel uncomfortable.
So there you have it! You know
have a few ideas on how you can go about spicing up things in the
bedroom. So what are you waiting for? Get started today.